TSMIED: Part 5 - The Lists

Ten things I did wrong in my Marriage:

(Aside from the obvious of having married for the wrong reasons)

1. I was often a bitch
2. I never truly let myself trust him
3. I let my physical appearance go
4. I gave in to my anxieties, which put extra burden on him
5. I didn't complement him
6. I didn't respect him
7. I didn't work full time
8. I kept him up way too late pretty much every night
9. I quit wanting to (or having) sex with him
10. I allowed myself to become close friends with another male; started to enjoy his attention more than I should; and began to measure RB against him.

Ten Things I tried to do Right:

1. I kept a beautiful home
2. I maintained a budget and stretched every dollar we had
3. I cooked dinner almost every night
4. I encouraged him to be a hero/father to our son
5. I encouraged him to indulge his hobbies
6. I made sure we made time for his family
7. I tried to treat him like the man of the house
8. I laughed with him as often as possible
9. I encouraged him to seek counseling
10. I didn't keep secrets from him

Ten Things I gave up during my marriage (and yes, I did secretly resent them all):

1. Education
2. Travel
3. Music
4. Romance
5. Nice clothes
6. Gifts
7. Girlfriends
8. My own car
9. Health Insurance
10. More Children

Ten Things I got back After the Divorce (Eventually):

1. 1-9 above
2. Self respect
3. Responsibility
4. Courage
5. A nicer home
6. Personal friendships
7. Hope
8. Goals
9. My sex drive
10. Satisfaction